{"id":90666,"date":"2022-11-06T11:44:00","date_gmt":"2022-11-06T10:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/?p=90666"},"modified":"2022-11-07T13:12:23","modified_gmt":"2022-11-07T12:12:23","slug":"jestem-mezczyzna-nie-chce-krzywdzic-kamil-bloch-o-przemocy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/jestem-mezczyzna-nie-chce-krzywdzic-kamil-bloch-o-przemocy\/","title":{"rendered":"Jestem m\u0119\u017cczyzn\u0105, nie chc\u0119 krzywdzi\u0107 \u2013 Kamil B\u0142och o przemocy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Kiedy by\u0142em ch\u0142opcem wydawa\u0142o mi si\u0119, \u017ce to, czego do\u015bwiadczam w domu, b\u0119dzie trwa\u0142o ju\u017c zawsze. \u017be tak b\u0119dzie wygl\u0105da\u0142o ca\u0142e moje \u017cycie. Wtedy nie potrafi\u0142em obj\u0105\u0107 swoim rozumem, \u017ce dzieci dorastaj\u0105 i zmieniaj\u0105 si\u0119 w doros\u0142ych.&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>By\u0142em wi\u0119c przekonany i przera\u017cony, \u017ce ju\u017c do ko\u0144ca \u017cycia b\u0119d\u0119 musia\u0142 ba\u0107 si\u0119 swojego ojca. \u017be ju\u017c do ko\u0144ca \u017cycia b\u0119d\u0119 musia\u0142 znosi\u0107 jego obelgi, w\u015bciek\u0142o\u015b\u0107, upokarzanie mnie, bicie i nieprzewidywalno\u015b\u0107. Zawsze b\u0119d\u0119 przez niego p\u0142aka\u0142 \u2013 ja albo moja mama, pr\u00f3buj\u0105ca mnie broni\u0107. Do ko\u0144ca \u017cycia b\u0119d\u0105 powtarza\u0107 si\u0119 dni, w kt\u00f3rych mama zostawia mnie samego w domu, a ja p\u0142acz\u0119 z przera\u017cenia na my\u015bl o tym, \u017ce b\u0119d\u0119 musia\u0142 p\u00f3\u0142 tego dnia sp\u0119dzi\u0107 sam z moim ojcem kr\u0119c\u0105cym si\u0119 po tej samej przestrzeni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pami\u0119tam rozdzieraj\u0105cy szloch tamtego ma\u0142ego ch\u0142opca, kt\u00f3ry wgapia si\u0119 w okno, patrz\u0105c przez za\u0142zawione oczy na matk\u0119, kt\u00f3ra oddala si\u0119 w stron\u0119 przystanku autobusowego, \u017ceby dojecha\u0107 do pracy. Pami\u0119tam ogromne niezrozumienie i poczucie zdrady. Przecie\u017c prosi\u0142em, \u017ceby odwioz\u0142a mnie do babci. Czyli, \u017ceby zrobi\u0142a co\u015b, co robi\u0142a zawsze, kiedy tylko tego potrzebowa\u0142em.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CPkrnEFnMb7\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CPkrnEFnMb7\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\"> <div style=\"background-color: #F4F4F4; 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border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg)\"><\/div><\/div><div style=\"margin-left: auto;\"> <div style=\" width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div><\/div><\/div> <div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\"> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div><\/div><\/a><p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CPkrnEFnMb7\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Kamil B\u0142och (@kamil__bloch)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async=\"\" src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Do dzi\u015b ten ma\u0142y ch\u0142opiec nie wie, dlaczego moja mama nie odwioz\u0142a go tamtego dnia do babci. Ale doros\u0142y ja ju\u017c wiem, \u017ce mog\u0142a nie mie\u0107 wtedy si\u0142y, mog\u0142a nie mie\u0107 ju\u017c czasu i sp\u00f3\u017ani\u0142aby si\u0119 do pracy, albo zwyczajnie mog\u0142a nie mie\u0107 na to ochoty i potrzebowa\u0142a podr\u00f3\u017c do pracy sp\u0119dzi\u0107 w towarzystwie tylko samej siebie. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Doros\u0142y Kamil jest ju\u017c w stanie zrozumie\u0107 t\u0119 doros\u0142\u0105 kobiet\u0119, w\u0142a\u015bciwie r\u00f3wie\u015bniczk\u0119 obecnego mnie. Kobiet\u0119, kt\u00f3ra w ka\u017cdy dzie\u0144 powszedni i sobot\u0119 zasuwa\u0142a od rana do wieczora w \u201crobocie\u201d. Po robocie sz\u0142a na zakupy, \u017ceby potem wr\u00f3ci\u0107 do domu, zrobi\u0107 kolacj\u0119 dla siebie, mnie i mojego ojca. Ugotowa\u0107 jaki\u015b obiad dla mojego ojca na kolejny dzie\u0144. Wstawi\u0107 pranie. Rozwiesi\u0107 pranie. Przygotowa\u0107 i wyprasowa\u0107 ubrania dla siebie i mnie na kolejny dzie\u0144. I, jak dobrze p\u00f3jdzie albo ojciec b\u0119dzie mia\u0142 wieczorn\u0105 zmian\u0119, unikn\u0105\u0107 z nim awantury i w spokoju m\u00f3c obejrze\u0107 jaki\u015b serial lub film.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Niedawno zaprosi\u0142em moich rodzic\u00f3w, \u017ceby wpadli do mnie mnie do Warszawy. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Gra\u0142em spektakl, kt\u00f3rego jeszcze nie widzieli. Bardzo si\u0119 cieszy\u0142em na ich przyjazd. \u017be b\u0119dzie te\u017c tata, kt\u00f3ry dot\u0105d nie odwiedzi\u0142 mnie w Warszawie. Jaki by\u0142em zdziwiony, kiedy nagle odpali\u0142y si\u0119 wszystkie stare schematy mojego domu rodzinnego. Troch\u0119 nie mog\u0142em uwierzy\u0107 w to, co si\u0119 dzieje. Przede wszystkim jednak zobaczy\u0142em to z zupe\u0142nie innej perspektywy \u2013 doros\u0142ego, kt\u00f3ry potrafi zadba\u0107 o swoje bezpiecze\u0144stwo i zatrzyma\u0107 przemoc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nagle okaza\u0142o si\u0119, \u017ce to, co dla mnie ma\u0142ego by\u0142o ko\u0144cem \u015bwiata, jako doros\u0142y widz\u0119 wybuch furii osoby, kt\u00f3ra nie ma nade mn\u0105 w\u0142adzy i kt\u00f3rej mog\u0119 postawi\u0107 granic\u0119. Osoby, kt\u00f3r\u0105 kocham i o kt\u00f3rej wiem, \u017ce nie umie inaczej. Mam na my\u015bli mojego tat\u0119. I \u017ce w ten sam spos\u00f3b mog\u0119 postawi\u0107 granic\u0119 agresji kierowanej w stron\u0119 mojej mamy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Jednocze\u015bnie zobaczy\u0142em obrazek, kt\u00f3ry najbardziej mnie zadziwi\u0142, a kt\u00f3rego nie mog\u0142em zrozumie\u0107: pomimo tego wszystkiego, czego do\u015bwiadczy\u0142a moja mama, ona wieczorem sz\u0142a do sklepu, by na rano kupi\u0107 bu\u0142ki, \u017ceby m\u00f3c zrobi\u0107 \u015bniadanie dla taty. I by\u0142 we mnie g\u0142os, kt\u00f3ry chcia\u0142 pyta\u0107 moj\u0105 mam\u0119 \u2013 dlaczego to robisz? Ale by\u0142o te\u017c zrozumienie, \u017ce nie mam prawa podwa\u017ca\u0107 jej \u015bwiata, ocenia\u0107 go. Nie mam prawa m\u00f3wi\u0107 jej, \u017ceby inaczej sobie urz\u0105dzi\u0142a t\u0119 relacj\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CVUshe8IF_-\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CVUshe8IF_-\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\"> <div style=\"background-color: #F4F4F4; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CVUshe8IF_-\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async=\"\" src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Patriarchalny model relacji relacji opiera si\u0119 na w\u0142adzy utrzymywanej poprzez przemoc. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Przemoc m\u0119\u017cczyzn skierowan\u0105 w stron\u0119 kobiet (ale te\u017c mniejszo\u015bci i samych m\u0119\u017cczyzn \u2013 cho\u0107 o tym kiedy indziej). Ta przemoc przybiera r\u00f3\u017cne formy. M\u00f3j ojciec nie bi\u0142 mojej mamy. Ale stosowa\u0142 wobec niej przemoc psychiczn\u0105 i ekonomiczn\u0105. Statystyki pokazuj\u0105, \u017ce 90% sprawc\u00f3w przemocy domowej w Polsce to m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani, a wi\u0119kszo\u015b\u0107 jej ofiar to kobiety i dzieci. 90% kobiet w Polsce do\u015bwiadczy\u0142o przemocy seksualnej, a 20% &#8211; gwa\u0142tu; w obydwu przypadkach w ok. 99% procentach sprawcami s\u0105 m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani. Co wi\u0119cej ok. 90% gwa\u0142t\u00f3w nie jest zg\u0142aszane na Policj\u0119.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ch\u0142opaku, m\u0119\u017cczyzno, facecie, czytanie tych statystyk nie jest \u0142atwe. Wielu m\u0119\u017cczyzn, kt\u00f3rym w ramach dzia\u0142a\u0144 Grupy Performatywnej Ch\u0142opaki przedstawiali\u015bmy te dane oburza\u0142o si\u0119. Uznawali, \u017ce chc\u0105c przypodoba\u0107 si\u0119 kobietom, szkalujemy m\u0119\u017cczyzn. Pojawia\u0142y si\u0119 g\u0142osy, \u017ce przecie\u017c one r\u00f3wnie\u017c zadaj\u0105 przemoc. \u017be statystyki s\u0105 niewiarygodne. \u017be przecie\u017c nie wszyscy m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani\u2026 A ja w tych reakcji widzia\u0142em przede wszystkim brak akceptacji trudnych emocji, kt\u00f3re pojawiaj\u0105 si\u0119 w konfrontacji z tymi danymi i i patriarchalnymi mechanizmami. Bo to jest trudne! Uzna\u0107, \u017ce p\u0142e\u0107, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 si\u0119 uto\u017csamiam czy spos\u00f3b w jaki by\u0142em wychowywany sprzyjaj\u0105 temu, \u017ce mog\u0119 zadawa\u0107 przemoc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CeYBi25OEYB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CeYBi25OEYB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; 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border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg)\"><\/div><\/div><div style=\"margin-left: auto;\"> <div style=\" width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div><\/div><\/div> <div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\"> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div><\/div><\/a><p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CeYBi25OEYB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async=\"\" src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Jednocze\u015bnie pokazuj\u0105c te dane, nie chc\u0119 wp\u0119dza\u0107 Ci\u0119 w poczucie winy. Te statystyki pokazuj\u0105 jedynie, do czego prowadz\u0105 toksyczne wzorce m\u0119sko\u015bci. To nie bycie facetem jest z\u0142e! To wzorce m\u0119sko\u015bci s\u0105 do bani! Wzorce, wed\u0142ug kt\u00f3rych byli w wi\u0119kszo\u015bci wychowywani nasi ojcowie, dziadkowie i ich ojcowie. Wed\u0142ug kt\u00f3rych wci\u0105\u017c wychowywanych jest wielu ch\u0142opc\u00f3w. Wzorce, w kt\u00f3rych wychowano nas.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Zawsze mamy jednak prawo sprzeciwi\u0107 si\u0119 przemocy. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Niezale\u017cnie od tego, jak zniuansowane s\u0105 relacje rodzinne i kontekst sytuacji. Mamy prawo zatrzyma\u0107 agresora. Powiedzie\u0107 stop. Na niuanse przyjdzie jeszcze czas. Najwa\u017cniejsze, by zapobiec przemocy. Oczywi\u015bcie nie zawsze jeste\u015bmy w stanie. Na tym polega moc agresora. Wraz z pr\u00f3bami przeciwstawienia si\u0119 agresorowi, przychodz\u0105 w\u0105tpliwo\u015bci: czy ta sytuacja na pewno jest taka, jak j\u0105 widz\u0119? Czy ja mam prawo kogo\u015b zatrzymywa\u0107? Czy ja mam prawo si\u0119 wtr\u0105ca\u0107? MAM PRAWO!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Co wi\u0119cej, poza zatrzymaniem aktu przemocy mo\u017cemy wykona\u0107 najwa\u017cniejsz\u0105, moim zdaniem, prac\u0119, bo prac\u0119 u samych podstaw problemu \u2013 prac\u0119 nad sob\u0105 jako m\u0119\u017cczyzn\u0105. Prac\u0119, kt\u00f3r\u0105 wsp\u00f3lnie z Grup\u0105 Performatywn\u0105 Ch\u0142opaki wykonujemy ju\u017c od kilku lat. Przygl\u0105damy si\u0119 sobie jako osobom wychowywanym do realizowania wzorca \u201cprawdziwego m\u0119\u017cczyzny\u201d w naszym spo\u0142ecze\u0144stwie i wzorcom, kt\u00f3re nas ukszta\u0142towa\u0142y. A przede wszystkim uczymy si\u0119 prze\u017cywa\u0107 i m\u00f3wi\u0107 o w\u0142asnych emocjach. Badania, na kt\u00f3re powo\u0142uje si\u0119 autorka ksi\u0105\u017cki <em>Samiec alfa musi odej\u015b\u0107<\/em> Liz Plank pokazuj\u0105, \u017ce im mniej m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani s\u0105 skontaktowani z w\u0142asnymi emocjami, tym bardziej s\u0105 przemocowi. 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CWpuScso6U2\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Przez wi\u0119kszo\u015b\u0107 swojego \u017cycia ba\u0142em si\u0119 m\u0119\u017cczyzn. <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Gardzi\u0142em nimi, bo nie czu\u0142em si\u0119 przy nich bezpiecznie. Odk\u0105d uczestnicz\u0119 w kr\u0119gu m\u0119\u017cczyzn, kt\u00f3rzy s\u0105 bezpieczni, akceptuj\u0105cy, przyjmuj\u0105cy mnie takiego, jakim jestem i sami pokazuj\u0105 swoje trudno\u015bci i krucho\u015b\u0107 \u2013 zachwycam si\u0119 m\u0119sko\u015bci\u0105. Bycie m\u0119\u017cczyzn\u0105 jest pi\u0119kne. 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