{"id":96260,"date":"2023-02-12T10:15:00","date_gmt":"2023-02-12T09:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/?p=96260"},"modified":"2023-07-31T15:22:14","modified_gmt":"2023-07-31T13:22:14","slug":"faceci-randkuja-czyli-jak-oszalec-z-milosci-w-3-dni-going-amore","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/faceci-randkuja-czyli-jak-oszalec-z-milosci-w-3-dni-going-amore\/","title":{"rendered":"Faceci randkuj\u0105, czyli jak oszale\u0107 z mi\u0142o\u015bci w 3 dni | Going. aMORE"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Kamil B\u0142och szczerze o randkowaniu.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Nie jeste\u015bmy randkowymi wyjadaczami. Randki nas stresuj\u0105. Nie my\u015blimy tylko o seksie. Potrzebujemy blisko\u015bci i czu\u0142o\u015bci. Boimy si\u0119 odrzucenia. Marzymy o rodzinie i otulaj\u0105cym domu. Chcemy rozmawia\u0107 i s\u0142ucha\u0107 o emocjach, \u017ceby czu\u0107 si\u0119 bezpiecznie.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Podryw<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Skomentowa\u0142 moje stories. Napisa\u0142, \u017ce \u0142adnie wygl\u0105dam. By\u0142 pierwszy dzie\u0144 nowego roku, 1. stycznia 2023. 15 stopni. A ja sfotografowa\u0142em si\u0119 w kr\u00f3tkim r\u0119kawku na tle zbawiksowego ko\u015bcio\u0142a [Plac Zbawiciela &#8211; przyp. red.]. Czu\u0142em si\u0119 rozkosznie tego dnia, zachwycony pi\u0119knym latem tej zimy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kiedy\u015b przejrza\u0142em jego profil. Podoba\u0142 mi si\u0119, ale nie mia\u0142em \u015bmia\u0142o\u015bci zagada\u0107. Wi\u0119c cieszy\u0142em si\u0119, \u017ce on to zrobi\u0142. Chyba odpisa\u0142em mu, \u017ce on te\u017c mi si\u0119 podoba. Na co on stwierdzi\u0142, \u017ce trzeba co\u015b z tym zrobi\u0107. I ju\u017c po chwili byli\u015bmy um\u00f3wieni.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CYvvJscIlnY\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CYvvJscIlnY\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\"> <div style=\"background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 50%; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CYvvJscIlnY\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Randka<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Na wst\u0119pie poprosi\u0142 mnie, \u017cebym przeczyta\u0142 mu menu, co by\u0142o niesamowicie sexy. Potem si\u0119 zorientowa\u0142em, \u017ce to w zwi\u0105zku z jego chorob\u0105. Ale nadal wydawa\u0142o mi si\u0119 to bardzo romantyczne. No i by\u0142o \u015bwietnym sposobem na prze\u0142amanie lod\u00f3w. Siedzieli\u015bmy na jednej kanapie, wi\u0119c zwr\u00f3cili\u015bmy si\u0119 do siebie. I to te\u017c przyjemnie skraca\u0142o dystans. Ja czyta\u0142em, on s\u0142ucha\u0142.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zachwyci\u0142 mnie swoj\u0105 bezpo\u015brednio\u015bci\u0105. Podoba\u0142 mi si\u0119 i mi imponowa\u0142. \u017bartowali\u015bmy i nie mogli\u015bmy si\u0119 nagada\u0107. Opowiadali\u015bmy sobie o naszych \u017cyciach, o tym, co nas kr\u0119ci, i o naszych dzia\u0142alno\u015bciach w sieci. O tym, \u017ce si\u0119 \u201cpodgl\u0105dali\u015bmy\u201d i o naszych kosmogramach.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Komentowali\u015bmy grindra \u2013 gejowsk\u0105 aplikacj\u0119 randkow\u0105. Ja m\u00f3wi\u0142em, \u017ce to trudne miejsce, pe\u0142ne homofobii, bodyshamingu oraz kolesi, kt\u00f3rzy napastuj\u0105 ci\u0119 niechcianymi dickpikami i chc\u0105 tylko bezosobowego seksu. On m\u00f3wi\u0142 o tym, \u017ce kolesie z grindra ju\u017c nawet na jednorazowy seks si\u0119 nie spotykaj\u0105, bo nasz mechanizm nagrody i potrzeba szybko osi\u0105galnych bod\u017ac\u00f3w sprawiaj\u0105, \u017ce m\u0119\u017cczy\u017ani kompulsywnie zaspokajaj\u0105 si\u0119 masturbacj\u0105 do przes\u0142anych zdj\u0119\u0107 i na tym si\u0119 ko\u0144cz\u0105 \u201cmi\u0142osne\u201d\u00a0podboje. A \u017ceby podtrzyma\u0107 dopaminowy haj, rozpoczynaj\u0105 poszukiwania kolejnej zdobyczy, scrolluj\u0105 apk\u0119 i finiszuj\u0105 w zaciszach w\u0142asnych dom\u00f3w wobec nowych porno-nudes\u00f3w.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-text-align-center has-background wp-block-heading\" style=\"background-color:#feff05\"><a href=\"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/euforia-i-chemseks-kamil-bloch-meskosc\/\">Kamil B\u0142och o samotno\u015bci chemicznego seksu<\/a><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Czas mija\u0142. Rozmowa wrza\u0142a, a dystans mi\u0119dzy nami mala\u0142. Czu\u0142em eufori\u0119, pomieszanie rado\u015bci i l\u0119ku. Momentami jej poziom by\u0142 trudny do zniesienia, wi\u0119c co jaki\u015b czas oddycha\u0142em g\u0142\u0119boko. Po jakim\u015b czasie poczu\u0142em, jak nasze palce ocieraj\u0105 si\u0119 przypadkiem. Przeprosi\u0142 za to, a ja powiedzia\u0142em, \u017ce to w porz\u0105dku, bo sam chcia\u0142em go dotkn\u0105\u0107, ale wstydzi\u0142em si\u0119 zapyta\u0107. Siedzieli\u015bmy, sczepieni palcami, zwalniaj\u0105c w ekscytacji. W ko\u0144cu zrobi\u0142o si\u0119 miejsce na wsp\u00f3lne zatrzymanie i cisz\u0119.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lubi\u0119 wsp\u00f3ln\u0105 cisz\u0119. Lubi\u0119 wsp\u00f3lne szukanie spokoju w jej niezr\u0119czno\u015bci. Chyba mu to wypowiedzia\u0142em. A przynajmniej co\u015b w tym stylu. On powiedzia\u0142, \u017ce dla niego to trudne, bo traci wtedy kontrol\u0119. To jako\u015b otworzy\u0142o przestrze\u0144 do tego, \u017ceby opowiedzie\u0107 sobie, jak sobie radzimy ze stresuj\u0105cymi sytuacjami. Ja najcz\u0119\u015bciej reaguj\u0119 l\u0119kiem i pr\u00f3b\u0105 konfrontacji, on \u2013 unikowo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CUpSLAbozPB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CUpSLAbozPB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\"> <div style=\"background-color: #F4F4F4; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CUpSLAbozPB\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Zasiedzieli\u015bmy si\u0119. By\u0142 sp\u00f3\u017aniony na swoj\u0105 terapi\u0119, wi\u0119c zam\u00f3wi\u0142 taks\u0119. Kiedy czekali\u015bmy na auto, ja trz\u0105s\u0142em si\u0119 z zimna. Zaproponowa\u0142, \u017ce mnie przytuli. Bezceremonialnie sta\u0142em w jego przytuleniu na Zbawiksie i \u015bmia\u0142em si\u0119 do braku spalonej t\u0119czy. Przyjecha\u0142a taks\u00f3wka, wi\u0119c wypu\u015bci\u0142 mnie z u\u015bcisku. Po\u017cegnali\u015bmy si\u0119 obietnic\u0105 kolejnego spotkania. I odjecha\u0142.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dzie\u0144 1. Euforia<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Wraca\u0142em do domu, unosz\u0105c si\u0119 kilka centymetr\u00f3w nad ziemi\u0105 i wyobra\u017caj\u0105c sobie, jak m\u00f3wi\u0119 o tym przyjacio\u0142om i przyjaci\u00f3\u0142kom. Przede wszystkim jednak fantazjowa\u0142em o naszym kolejnym spotkaniu. Jak na szpilkach czeka\u0142em, a\u017c sko\u0144czy terapi\u0119, \u017ceby\u015bmy mogli kontynuowa\u0107 nasze spotkanie przez wiadomo\u015bci na Instagramie. Euforia mnie rozsadza\u0142a, wi\u0119c robi\u0142em, co mog\u0142em, \u017ceby si\u0119 uziemi\u0107.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I wtedy si\u0119 zacz\u0119\u0142o. Wirus randkowy si\u0119 zainstalowa\u0142 i rozpocz\u0105\u0142 hakowanie: Czeka\u0107, a\u017c sko\u0144czy terapi\u0119, czy napisa\u0107 od razu, \u017ceby po w\u0142\u0105czeniu telefonu mia\u0142 przyjemno\u015b\u0107 czytania wiadomo\u015bci ode mnie? Czy ja aby si\u0119 za bardzo nie ekscytuj\u0119? O bo\u017ce, dotykali\u015bmy si\u0119! Ojeju, jak by\u0142o zabawnie! Mo\u017ce powinienem si\u0119 pow\u015bci\u0105gn\u0105\u0107? Tak, play it cool! Nie mog\u0119 si\u0119 doczeka\u0107, a\u017c si\u0119 odezwie! Czy\u017cby i tak ju\u017c cudowny pocz\u0105tek roku sprawi\u0142 mi jeszcze jeden prezent? Jak b\u0119dzie wygl\u0105da\u0107 nasza kolejna randka? Kiedy ona b\u0119dzie? Uspok\u00f3j si\u0119, masz ju\u017c 33 lata, jeste\u015b za du\u017cy na takie naiwne ekscytacje!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To, \u017ce si\u0119 sobie nawzajem podobali\u015bmy, by\u0142o dla mnie oczywiste. Jednak taki t\u0142umaczenie nie pomaga\u0142o. Pr\u00f3bowa\u0142em si\u0119 uspokoi\u0107 i poszuka\u0107 g\u0142\u0119bszych przyczyn swojego stanu, \u017ceby m\u00f3c sobie z nim poradzi\u0107. I wtedy na to wpad\u0142em! Wprost proporcjonalnie do tego jak mi si\u0119 podoba\u0142 \u2013 czu\u0142em l\u0119k przed odrzuceniem. Bingo, zyska\u0142em troch\u0119 spokoju. Zaj\u0105\u0142em si\u0119 wi\u0119c czym\u015b, \u017ceby odwr\u00f3ci\u0107 swoj\u0105 uwag\u0119 i znalaz\u0142em jaki\u015b spos\u00f3b na sp\u0119dzenie reszty wieczoru. Uda\u0142o mi si\u0119 nawet zapomnie\u0107 o telefonie. A kiedy sobie o nim przypomnia\u0142em, czeka\u0142a w nim s\u0142odka nagroda \u2013 napisa\u0142! Wi\u0119c znowu mog\u0142em si\u0119 odda\u0107 euforii, wymianie wiadomo\u015bci i fantazjowaniu o kolejnej randce.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dzie\u0144 2. Udawaj cool guya<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Nast\u0119pnego dnia obudzi\u0142em si\u0119 zniecierpliwiony. Nie mog\u0142em si\u0119 doczeka\u0107, a\u017c w\u0142\u0105cz\u0119 telefon i sp\u0142yn\u0105 zaleg\u0142e wiadomo\u015bci. Nowych wiadomo\u015bci jednak nie by\u0142o. To nic. Pewnie napisze, jak si\u0119 obudzi. Znowu pr\u00f3bowa\u0142em odwr\u00f3ci\u0107 czym\u015b swoj\u0105 uwag\u0119 i szuka\u0142em sobie zaj\u0119cia. Nawet do\u015b\u0107 skutecznie.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>W ci\u0105gu dnia zobaczy\u0142em, \u017ce napisa\u0142. Ucieszy\u0142em si\u0119. Cho\u0107 mia\u0142em takie ledwo uchwytne wra\u017cenie, \u017ce co\u015b jest nie tak. \u017be entuzjazmu u niego jakby mniej. I gada wirus w mojej g\u0142owie: Czego ty chcesz, przecie\u017c on normalnie si\u0119 zachowuje! Czego oczekujesz? Przecie\u017c w og\u00f3le si\u0119 nie znacie, byli\u015bcie na jednym kr\u00f3tkim spotkaniu, a ty ju\u017c fantazjujesz o relacji? Ogarnij si\u0119. Zachowujesz si\u0119 jak boomer. On jest prawie dziesi\u0119\u0107 lat m\u0142odszy. To ju\u017c inne pokolenie, inne my\u015blenie o zwi\u0105zkach. Wi\u0119ksza otwarto\u015b\u0107 na p\u0142ynne relacje i potrzeba przestrzeni. Dla niego dotyk nie musi by\u0107 tak zobowi\u0105zuj\u0105cy!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stara\u0142em si\u0119 wyczilowa\u0107 i przyj\u0105\u0107 postaw\u0119 wi\u0119kszego cool guya, a w\u0142a\u015bciwie postaw\u0119 jakiegokolwiek cool guya. Jako\u015b wymieniali\u015bmy si\u0119 wiadomo\u015bciami, a m\u00f3j stan emocjonalny coraz bardziej mnie niepokoi\u0142. Toczy\u0142em zawirusowane monologi w swojej g\u0142owie: No teraz to chyba\u00a0 jestem odpowiednio cool. Ale w sumie to co z\u0142ego jest w ekscytacji ledwo co poznan\u0105 osob\u0105? Przecie\u017c mi si\u0119 podoba. A w og\u00f3le to moi przyjaciele praktycznie zamieszkali ze sob\u0105 zaledwie po kilku spotkaniach. Ale\u00a0 moja historia to nie ich historia. Zreszt\u0105 znowu pr\u00f3bujesz kogo\u015b sob\u0105 zala\u0107. Tak na wst\u0119pie i bez uzgodnienia\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CbpKyk6g3Sc\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); width:calc(100% - 2px);\"><div style=\"padding:16px;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CbpKyk6g3Sc\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> <div style=\" display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;\"> <div style=\"background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 50%; 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font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CbpKyk6g3Sc\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Dzie\u0144 3. &#8222;Najdro\u017cszy, to pewne, znowu ogarnia mnie szale\u0144stwo&#8221;<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Min\u0119\u0142a kolejna noc, mija\u0142 nast\u0119pny dzie\u0144, a ja by\u0142em coraz bardziej zaniepokojony i zaskoczony tym, jak si\u0119 czuj\u0119. Jak coraz bardziej mi \u017ale. Gada\u0142em w mi\u0119dzyczasie ze swoj\u0105 przyjaci\u00f3\u0142k\u0105, \u017ceby poogl\u0105da\u0107 z ni\u0105 wsp\u00f3lnie moje my\u015bli i upewni\u0107 si\u0119, \u017ce wszystko ze mn\u0105 w porz\u0105dku. Wszystko okej. Ale moje samopoczucie r\u00f3wni\u0105 pochy\u0142\u0105 stacza\u0142o si\u0119 w d\u00f3\u0142. Kiedy wieczorem wraca\u0142em Krakowskim Przedmie\u015bciem ze spotkania z przyjacielem, czu\u0142em si\u0119 tak \u017ale, \u017ce zacz\u0105\u0142em p\u0142aka\u0107. Szed\u0142em ulic\u0105 i chlipa\u0142em, bardzo si\u0119 o siebie martwi\u0105c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A w g\u0142owie:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; Mo\u017ce mu napisa\u0107?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; Ale co?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; No to, jak si\u0119 czuj\u0119. I \u017ce nie wiem, o co chodzi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; Pomy\u015bli si\u0119, \u017ce jeste\u015b walni\u0119ty. I \u017ce si\u0119 narzucasz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8211; No to, jak mam sobie poradzi\u0107? Co mam zrobi\u0107?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h6 class=\"wp-block-heading\"> <\/h6>\n\n\n\n<p>Cisza.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zatrzyma\u0142em si\u0119. Wzi\u0105\u0142em oddech. Musz\u0119 jako\u015b rozsup\u0142a\u0107 ten stan. Od czego\u015b zacz\u0105\u0107. Nie ufa\u0142em ju\u017c sobie w niczym. Co jest jedyn\u0105 pewna dla mnie w tej chwili rzecz\u0105? To jak si\u0119 czuj\u0119. No dobrze \u2013 wi\u0119c co czuj\u0119? Czuj\u0119 l\u0119k. I absolutny brak poczucia bezpiecze\u0144stwa i zaufania do siebie. Tak jakby kto\u015b mi je zabra\u0142.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bang!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ta my\u015bl by\u0142a zbawienna! Nagle, stoj\u0105c zap\u0142akany na chodniku Krakowskiego Przedmie\u015bcia, zrozumia\u0142em wszystko. Tropem by\u0142a my\u015bl, \u017ce to, co czuj\u0119 nie jest moje, \u017ce kto\u015b mi co\u015b zabra\u0142. Ta my\u015bl skojarzy\u0142a mi si\u0119 z jednym z element\u00f3w gaslightingu i ghostingu. Sprawca doprowadza do tego, \u017ce osoba traci zaufanie do siebie i poczucie bezpiecze\u0144stwa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Nagle u\u015bwiadomi\u0142em sobie, \u017ce przecie\u017c to on napisa\u0142 pierwszy! To on zaproponowa\u0142 spotkanie! Pierwszy skraca\u0142 dystans! To on opowiada\u0142, jak obserwuje mnie ju\u017c od d\u0142u\u017cszego czasu. Jak s\u0142ucha naszego podcastu i mojej historii. \u017be przyszed\u0142 na nasze kr\u0119gi w nadziei, \u017ce mnie spotka! To on pyta\u0142, czy mam jeszcze ch\u0142opaka i wyra\u017ca\u0142 nadziej\u0119, \u017ce ju\u017c nie. On pierwszy mnie dotkn\u0105\u0142 i zaproponowa\u0142, \u017ce mnie przytuli, gdy marz\u0142em! A ja w tym czasie, znaj\u0105c siebie i swoj\u0105 \u201cwylewno\u015b\u0107\u201d, stara\u0142em si\u0119 pow\u015bci\u0105gn\u0105\u0107, \u017ceby nie robi\u0107 sobie z\u0142udnej nadziei. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A jednak w obliczu tylu jednoznacznych gest\u00f3w, przyjemnej rozmowy i fajnej wymiany, poczu\u0142em si\u0119 bezpiecznie i wszystko wskazywa\u0142o na to, \u017ce jeste\u015bmy sob\u0105 wzajemnie zainteresowani. Tymczasem natychmiast po sko\u0144czeniu spotkania on zacz\u0105\u0142 dystansowa\u0107 si\u0119 w komunikacji, co zreszt\u0105 s\u0142usznie wyczuwa\u0142em. Jednocze\u015bnie w og\u00f3le tego nie wyra\u017caj\u0105c! I gdy to wszystko zrozumia\u0142em i zd\u0105\u017cy\u0142em op\u0142aka\u0107, dosta\u0142em od niego wiadomo\u015b\u0107: Nic z tego nie b\u0119dzie, ale mo\u017cemy by\u0107 kolegami.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Epilog: U\u015bwiadomienie<\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Kolegami my ass! Wtedy zrozumia\u0142em, co to znaczy zosta\u0107 uwiedzionym. Wtedy zrozumia\u0142em, \u017ce zdoby\u0142 mnie, jak ci kolesie z grindra, o kt\u00f3rych m\u00f3wi\u0142. A potem zastosowa\u0142 unik, o kt\u00f3rym sam m\u00f3wi\u0142. Zosta\u0142em zdobyty, mo\u017cemy si\u0119 rozej\u015b\u0107.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zrozumienie tego, co si\u0119 sta\u0142o, by\u0142o mi tak bardzo potrzebne. Moje poczucie bezpiecze\u0144stwa nie by\u0142o tak zachwiane od lat! Powa\u017cnie si\u0119 o siebie martwi\u0142em. A brak zaufania do siebie, swoich my\u015bli i tego, co czuj\u0119, mnie przera\u017ca\u0142. Brak emocjonalnej, relacyjnej transparentno\u015bci by\u0142 jak wirus, kt\u00f3ry sprawi\u0142, \u017ce my\u015bla\u0142em o sobie w najgorszy spos\u00f3b. Stara\u0142 si\u0119 uniewa\u017cni\u0107 ca\u0142\u0105, wypracowan\u0105 przez lata samo\u015bwiadomo\u015b\u0107 i poczucie w\u0142asnej warto\u015bci. Ale pozosta\u0142em przy swojej mocy, w najbardziej kryzysowym momencie, zwr\u00f3ci\u0142em si\u0119 do siebie samego i do tego, co jest dla mnie jedynym pewnym elementem rzeczywisto\u015bci \u2013 mojego czucia. 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border-bottom: 2px solid transparent; transform: translateX(16px) translateY(-4px) rotate(30deg)\"><\/div><\/div><div style=\"margin-left: auto;\"> <div style=\" width: 0px; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-right: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(16px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; flex-grow: 0; height: 12px; width: 16px; transform: translateY(-4px);\"><\/div> <div style=\" width: 0; height: 0; border-top: 8px solid #F4F4F4; border-left: 8px solid transparent; transform: translateY(-4px) translateX(8px);\"><\/div><\/div><\/div> <div style=\"display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center; margin-bottom: 24px;\"> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 224px;\"><\/div> <div style=\" background-color: #F4F4F4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 144px;\"><\/div><\/div><\/a><p style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; line-height:17px; margin-bottom:0; margin-top:8px; overflow:hidden; padding:8px 0 7px; text-align:center; text-overflow:ellipsis; white-space:nowrap;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CXTLuEULaPI\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" color:#c9c8cd; font-family:Arial,sans-serif; font-size:14px; font-style:normal; font-weight:normal; line-height:17px; text-decoration:none;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Post udost\u0119pniony przez Grupa Performatywna Ch\u0142opaki (@grupaperformatywnachlopaki)<\/a><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote> <script async src=\"\/\/www.instagram.com\/embed.js\"><\/script>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\"> <\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Od pocz\u0105tku stycznia randkuj\u0119. Mam marzenie o Domu. Pisa\u0142em Wam o nim <a href=\"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/rodzinne-swieta-kamil-bloch-o-samotnosci-narcyza\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">przy okazji \u015awi\u0105t<\/a>. Chcia\u0142bym pozna\u0107 osob\u0119, z kt\u00f3r\u0105 ten Dom b\u0119d\u0119 tworzy\u0142. Jestem gotowy. Jednak randkowanie jest trudne. Czuj\u0119 na sobie du\u017c\u0105 presj\u0119 randkowych schemat\u00f3w. \u017be trzeba si\u0119 pokaza\u0107, zaprezentowa\u0107 swoj\u0105 najlepsz\u0105 mo\u017cliw\u0105 wersj\u0119. Savoir-vivre nie przewiduje rozmawiania o emocjach, ani rozmawiania o tym, \u017ce w czasie randki mierzymy si\u0119 z trudno\u015bciami. Nie mo\u017cemy ujawni\u0107 za du\u017co. Nie jest w dobrym tonie opowiedzenie o swoim l\u0119ku przed odrzuceniem albo s\u0142abo\u015bciach. Tym bardziej je\u015bli jeste\u015bmy facetami (nawet je\u015bli homoseksualnymi). A ju\u017c w og\u00f3le nie powinni\u015bmy pokazywa\u0107, \u017ce nam zale\u017cy!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A ja pierdol\u0119 takie randkowanie! Ja chc\u0119 rozmawia\u0107 o naszych emocjach, bo wtedy czuj\u0119 si\u0119 bezpiecznie, Bo wiem, co ty prze\u017cywasz i wiem, jak ty si\u0119 masz z tym, co ja prze\u017cywam. Chc\u0119 us\u0142ysze\u0107 o twojej s\u0142abo\u015bci, bo wtedy ci\u0119 poznaj\u0119. Bo przecie\u017c jeste\u015b cz\u0142owiekiem. Chc\u0119 us\u0142ysze\u0107 o twojej s\u0142abo\u015bci, bo wtedy wiem, \u017ce starasz si\u0119 siebie pozna\u0107 i rozmawiasz ze sob\u0105. Us\u0142ysze\u0107 o twojej s\u0142abo\u015bci, tak samo jak o tym, co ci\u0119 cieszy, co ci\u0119 poch\u0142ania i co sprawia, \u017ce zapominasz o bo\u017cym \u015bwiecie. Chc\u0119 pozna\u0107 cz\u0142owieka. Bo ja nim jestem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zapraszam ci\u0119 do pos\u0142uchania odcinka podcastu Czu\u0142a M\u0119sko\u015b\u0107 Grupy Performatywnej Ch\u0142opaki, w kt\u00f3rym szerzej wraz z innymi Ch\u0142opakami opowiadamy o tym jak randkuj\u0105 czuli faceci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-spotify wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-spotify wp-embed-aspect-21-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"Spotify Embed: Faceci randkuj\u0105, czyli mi\u0142o\u015b\u0107, seks i aplikacje - odc. 8.\" style=\"border-radius: 12px\" width=\"100%\" height=\"152\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen allow=\"autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; fullscreen; picture-in-picture\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/open.spotify.com\/embed\/episode\/3BZjRDToJVMoHlM7oe5qt4?si=u_SZxPE-Q3GLC_YNuk0HXQ&#038;utm_source=oembed\"><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Kamil B\u0142och<\/strong> &#8211; m\u0119\u017cczyzna queerowy, osoba tw\u00f3rcza; trener antyprzemocowy; wsp\u00f3\u0142tw\u00f3rca Grupy Performatywnej Ch\u0142opaki i Fundacji Czu\u0142ych M\u0119\u017cczyzn; wsp\u00f3\u0142tworzy i inicjuje kr\u0119gi m\u0119\u017cczyzn, dzia\u0142a na rzecz czu\u0142ej m\u0119sko\u015bci; aktor, re\u017cyser, poeta i piosenkopisarz; amator wolnych chwil i dobrego towarzystwa; \u017cywe srebro i sama rado\u015b\u0107<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:100px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-text-align-center has-background wp-block-heading\" style=\"background-color:#feff05\"><a href=\"https:\/\/goingapp.pl\/more\/tag\/going-amore\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Wi\u0119cej tekst\u00f3w o mi\u0142o\u015bci znajdziesz w cyklu Going. aMORE<\/a><\/h3>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Kamil B\u0142och szczerze o randkowaniu. Nie jeste\u015bmy randkowymi wyjadaczami. Randki nas stresuj\u0105. Nie my\u015blimy tylko o seksie. Potrzebujemy blisko\u015bci i czu\u0142o\u015bci. Boimy si\u0119 odrzucenia. Marzymy o rodzinie i otulaj\u0105cym domu. Chcemy rozmawia\u0107 i s\u0142ucha\u0107 o emocjach, \u017ceby czu\u0107 si\u0119 bezpiecznie. Podryw Skomentowa\u0142 moje stories. Napisa\u0142, \u017ce \u0142adnie wygl\u0105dam. 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